By: Iyo_Embong

We live in a world of imperfection, and certainly there are no perfect people.  And one of the surest ways to break up a home, to break up a marriage, to break up a friendship, a business, or any relationship in life, is tooveremphasize faultfinding.

People in love overlook faults. In disillusionment they overemphasize faults. “Faults are thick – where love is thin”. It isn’t fair to expect perfection in other people… when we can’t give it ourselves.

It is fair, however, to expect improvement, to expect repentance. It isn’t good enough to be just as good today as we were yesterday. Life is for learning. We ought to know more, to improve in our performance and be better each day. But in the meantime, one of the lessons of life is learning what to overlook – and when.

There is a time for all things. There is a time when people can be corrected in kindness, and there are times of heat or anger or embarrassment when correction reacts the wrong way. And trying to ridicule people intoimproving their performance also often reacts the wrong way. Sarcasm is a sharp tool, but often cuts too deeply and leaves scars that are hard to heal. “Of conversation the best way to act is not only to say the right thing in the right place – but to leave the wrong thing unsaid at the very tempting moment”.

We shouldn’t reconcile ourselves to letting all imperfections persist, all faults go uncorrected. But we need to choose the time, the place, the manner, and the method in focusing on faults, remembering always… that it is unreasonable to expect perfection of others when we cannot give it ourselves.

In marriage, in the home, at work, in public life, and in all relationships, one fact we must keep in mind ‘ALWAYS’ is that ‘we, all of us are ‘ALL’ imperfect people’.

So next time when you feel inclined to blame or criticise people on their faults, why don’t you ask yourself if you don’t have any faults too.  When you do that,  please…give it an honest answer!

By: Iyo_Embong